I'm dating a girl (sort of). And something is bugging me. We met on a dating site, and we're getting to know each other. And I just told her about this site (zeldagamers), and asked her to join. So we could talk on here, and so she can have fun on here and everything. But she says ''I don't want to, I hope that's ok''. But I don't get it. I told her it only takes a second to do and is free. It sounds like nothing right? But it bugs me. It's like on seinfeld when that girl wouldn't try the pie. LOL!

The reason it bugs me is because I sent her a youtube video a week ago that I thought was awesome (amazing trick shot pool). And I said ''did you like it?''. And she goes ''I closed it after a couple of seconds, pool doesn't interest me''. It doesn't interest me much either, but trick shots are awesome and I wanted her to hear the song that was playing. Isn't that a little rude? I don't mind the rudeness; but what's really getting to me is; what's our future going to be like? ''Hey; you want to go camping or something?'' ''no; I've never been camping, I don't want to''. It makes me feel like we won't be able to do anything together. It's like the little girl on that commercial that says ''I don't think I like that''. I'm willing to do almost anything with someone to be a good friend, to have a good time. But someone can't watch a three minute video? Can't sign up for a site that they'll spend less than five minutes a day on? Man.

You guys get what I'm saying? I don't want to be with a spoilsport. Maybe she isn't one, but she's coming off that way. What do you think?

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My pathetic excuse for empathy:

Perfect compatibility is pie in the sky. It just isn't going to happen. There will be things you find interesting that will bore your significant other to no end. That's just life. That's just being human. What matters is if the person is willing to compromise and meet you half way. If you are fearing these things will become worse, there may be a reason for it. I suggest discussing the matter with the individual in question before making any decisions. Voice your concerns. However, bear in mind that the 'little things' never go away. There are always going to be little things that just don't work between you, or annoy you, or you simply do not understand. How big those little things become are simply up to what the two of you are willing to overlook for each other. Basically, don't sweat the small stuff. If you fear this may turn into something bigger, then address it. Otherwise, let it go and see how things progress.

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Black Zero's advice is good. There will always be little things. But if it is bigger, then, it doesn't sound too good there. I mean, if she really likes you, you think she'd show at least a glimmer of interest in what interests you. When my husband and I were dating, he signed up for scuba diving classes. I previously had no interest in scuba diving. I, too, signed up for the classes. Now, we are both certified scuba divers and happily married. That's not the only interest of his that I also took an interest in. Why do you think I am an amateur radio operator?

Hmm, hope I don't come off sounding obsessive.

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true dat. I'm not going to offer my two cents since BlackZero blew this out of the water, damn. :)

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Thanks guys. I have more reasons to believe that she's real bad in this way. But maybe I can lead by example and show interest in her things while also letting her know that said things are excruciatingly boring for me, lol. We're into a lot of the same things; but anything that she isn't into; she doesn't want to be. At all. And that sux0rz. But; I'm going to ask her her sign and see what the chinese zodiac dealy says, 'cause that bugger is spot on, lol.

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To be honest, I think you may be a little paranoid or something. Personally, if someone I just met asked me to join some site just so we could talk. We can talk another way too, right, or you couldn't have asked me? Why would I want to join some site dedicated to a subject I'm not interested in even though it'd cost me 'only 5 minutes of my life'. What's wrong with text-messaging or chatting?

About the youtube movie, well, that's per person. I don't watch every video people send me, if it's really awesome, they'll say so and kindof insist I watch it. I dunno.

Just be a little easy on her, as I read it you only just met the gal. Cut her some slack.

Are you gonna start taking interest in all the little things she's into? My wife listens to aweful music. But that doesn't mean I have to like it. I like to keep my own autonomy. If she does everything you do, then there goes your autonomy, and you're relationship will become boring. My wife hates video games, and that's fine. As long as she isn't trying to make me stop playing them. Just let her be herself, and be happy that you have other things in interest.

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I agree with you guys. But this specific girl (who I have known a while); makes me feel like we'll never be able to do ''anything'' together. Like she'll ignore everything I say but expect me to listen to her for hours. ''Treat me good; I'll treat you better. Treat me bad; I'll treat you worse''. So I have a hard time being with someone who treats me bad.

I try to work ''everything'' out. I never want to walk away from anything sour. Even if a relationship/friendship is completely over; I like to walk away with a handshake or something. It's my nature. But she fights, yells, acts crazy. Maybe that's more of a guy girl thing than a zodiac thing, lol. I think guys like to leave on nice terms, and girls like to absolutely DESTROY you. That's generalizing, but still true of most people I think. A lot of guys are fighters too, so who knows. But I never met a girl that wanted to walk away without tearing you to pieces first.

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If you feel like you'll never make some kind of connection or you can't do anything together (which obviously bothers you, judging from your posts), then why not let her go and search for another, nicer girl?

People rarely change.

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