No wonder the new thing now is sugardaddy.com!


By the way Mental, is that a current picture of Xuxa?

Nice, uh, evasive action.

But anyway, it's possible to find love on the internet, but you don't always know for sure. Lulz, and with that, I'm out of this one.

Well, it can work. It's like a long-distance relationship except you didn't start it in person. I don't know if I could get into one though, meeting the person in-person would be kinda weird.

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I saw this discussion some nights ago, and I avoided it because after seeing it was an old discussion I also saw most of it has been said, if not all, so I might no be adding something useful to it to justify my necro.

I'll start by stating that this caught my attention because, yes, I am currently experimenting a long distance relationship.

I'll try to put this readable without having to open the spoilers. So maybe reading this way first and then if you want read a second time taking your time to open them is what I'd like.


First of all, I believe love over internet can be real just the way I believe you can make a real friendship, and I believe the first bit because it is what I have experimented through my time being online, I've made very good friends.
Funny enough you need to be there first in order to learn that, people who has never made a strong bond with anyone over the internet, ignore how easy is to feel all right to open. When you are talking face to face with someone you open depending in how the other person is reacting to your words and are constantly catching body language signals. They are no existent. As you keep on treating the person, you learn to "read" through the way they type.

Also, it is possible to experiment "internet crushes". I know there have been people I have admired a lot through some boards, but boards let us open more than usual. I know I don't talk of this stuff open, but here seeing a thread asking about it, and seeing other people open it about it, other people that are less and less strangers to me as I spend time here.


I believe too, that even through having friends through the net is a very charming thing, it is necessary to take your precautions, without falling in a extreme of either thinking all the world is as honest as you are (and thus not being too fast into making a deep bond) nor the extreme of not trusting in any soul that directs a word of you. Internet people come from real world, so we'll find people with good and bad intentions here and there. It is nice to believe that the good people outweigh the rest, but as long as there are people with bad intention we cannot simply let our guard down.


Trust is basic. If you are willing to go farther with someone you need to trust in them. One thing I hear often is "how do you know your SO is not cheating on you?". I usually turn it back to them, how can they be so sure their SO are not doing that with them? Many people think that just because is the internet where you contact them, you cannot trust in someone honesty. I can see it seems to be easier, way easier to do it online. Though seriously, if someone wants to play with you they'll do it, being in a face2face relationship doesn't really discard this possibility off. The way you "select" who to start a relationship is way more important that where you start it.

Back to the question how do you know they are not cheating in you? They have all your trust. You believe in their words and you trust them. This is why you can feel tranquil about that.

Other thing I'd like to add, is that trust doesn't magically appear, it is something to be build. As you get to know the other person and their reactions on you, as this person shares with you good and bad moments, showing care, giving you advice, helping you out. The bond between both grows, when this is mutual.

Myself, if I can't see someone as a friend, then there are no chances for me to start a love relationship with them. I think I need to know and trust the person a fair bit before I can consider to start dating someone, being given, i am not dating just because, I like taking it serious.

Sorry folks, this part is not as important, but I'd like to share it anyway...

I am double posting because of the character limit.


I only suggest going to a long distance relationship, if you both are willing to wait for the other and fight hard to bring it to a face-to-face relationship.

I'll close with this quote:
...because it is so true =3

Wow, Kaynil. It was so nice of you to open up to us that way. I hope that it all works out for you.

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The internet is great for relationships. Yes, there is the danger of the person you are interested not being who they say they are, but there are also good things. For one, it allows people to fall in love with each other for who they are, rather than how they look. People who get to know each other face-to-face usually develop a bond which almost always is tied in with appearances. I feel that the internet allows people to develop deeper, stronger bonds. And, after those bonds are developed, it helps keep the relationship strong when they get together IRL.

I met my better half on the internet (deviantART, 2004!), and we developed a very deep bond that went from strangers to best friends to a coupling that has lasted through many hardships. We fell in love before we knew what the other looked like.

You know, most couples divorce. Sad, isn't it? But people with deep-rooted, strong bonds stay together and fight for their relationships. Since the internet helps develop these relationships, I feel that relationships started on the net usually outlast ones started IRL first.

I don't think falling in love over the net is necessarily better than falling in love IRL, but I do feel that the relationships have a better chance at lasting. People who meet IRL today really don't take the time to get to know their better half, and they usually rush into things. Nowadays, people are getting married after 6 mos.- 1 yr! It's no wonder most relationships don't work out.

Remember, being with somebody on the net doesn't mean you'll never be with them IRL. If you have the patience to wait for each other, then that's already a good sign of a lasting relationship. If you don't have the patience to wait, then you probably wouldn't have the patience for a relationship period.

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I think the problem is that people stop putting effort into their relationship or that they didn't put any effort into it at all. It's not ok to only put effort into the kids (if any), either. That's not going to save your relationship with your other half.

Yes I went off on a tangent there, that's too bad.

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don't know waht a tangent is...
so you'r saying parents should focus more on their love life more than their childs life.
if so:
that would emotionally scar the child
if not:
then you mean parents should balance their childs life and love life?

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